My heart is so heavy tonight. I ache.
I keep asking myself why, how, why is there so much hate on this planet for women?
What on earth makes someone think that it’s ok to rape women with hot curling irons? Kill the rape victim in the name of honor, while the rapist goes free? Express military prowess by raping the women and girls of the defeated opponent? Stalk an ex and pick up the phone to advise the police that you’re about to kill her, just before you kill yourself? Cleanse yourself of HIV by raping 7 virgins? I mean, really, if you even really believed that would work, why would you do it?
What makes someone believe that women are so worthless? So disposable? So insignificant?
Why is it that all the spiritual texts of the world’s major religions are used over and over to justify such hatred? Such mistreatment? And disrespect?
What could 6 little girls possibly have done, or possibly represent, that their molestation and murder could provide someone relief? Revenge?
How is it possible that there are women who support and defend misogynists? Who succumb? Who bow down? Who submit? Who encourage and browbeat others to conform?
How is it possible that women lash out at the other woman, when it was the man who owes loyalty?
I’m really bothered by the Amish man who stood by the body of the dead 13 year old girl and taught the boys around him to not think evil towards the man who did this, but to forgive? I’m sorry, but, for me, there is so much that needs to come before forgiveness. Honor her life for God’s sake. Be angry. Acknowledge the evil. Value her life.
If we’re not supposed to be irrate about what happened in Paradise, Pennsylvania, what on earth is supposed to make us angry?
I feel so strongly that if we women don’t love and care for one another, no one will. We can’t afford to hate each other, fight each other, tear down each other. Our girls can’t afford to see us divided.
I’m planning to attend Sheryl Lee Ralph’s one-woman play that deals with the number of Black women dying from HIV. So many despite the fact that they are in monogamous, heterosexual relationships and marriages…or so they think. Tell me what makes it ok that the fact that you haven’t come to terms with your sexuality gives you the right to lie, cheat and expose your wife to the rotten fruit of your high-risk behavior? What makes us so insignificant that the risk to us is not considered?
I ache tonight. I ache for women everywhere. I don’t understand.